​Update Daily May 18-May 25
Below is a one-week account of therapy, exercise, work, people and a diet update. I’ve been taking notes every day. I know that the last update was four pages and I do not want to do that to you right now, so this is three pages and a couple paragraphs. I learned a lot about my left leg, walking and the operation of the knee: calf, quad and hamstring. There is a lot of science in performing correctly. This may not be as most humorous, but I believe it is insightful.

The collages include some great quotes as I read about leadership and sales, pics of family, espresso, bowling moments from early 2020 and my feet and AFO brace. You will find the complete Michael Jordan quote at the end of the update.

Debbie has been incredible. Her yard work and garden look amazing and she’s done most of it herself and with the help of a gentleman (Cesar) and his crew. She loves yard work, but this year she went above and beyond between the flowerbeds, planters and garden, our place looks really good. If it helps at all I’ve got a pretty good base tan and you might think that I did that work also. Not true!
She’s also kept up with the shopping, housework, majority of the cooking and making sure that taking the right dose is an amount of medication as needed. As a true Mother, she’s talks to our children and grandchildren every day. And a few friends and her brother and sister to catch up with during the day or in the evening. Pretty spectacular!
Thank you to Deanna, Angela, John and the rest of the family, Barresi’s, Fauceglia’s, Horgan’s Voso’s and the White’s for your love and support.
Monday, I had a new physical therapist, Donna. Her and Rick alternate weeks. She had an update of what I did with Rick the previous week and she built upon it. She had me stretching which I have not done very much in the last five weeks prior to starting therapy at a center. She also gave me exercises for my balance. It made me very aware of the work that I have to do to get back into shape. And she sent me my exercises by email. That was very cool.

Her and I also have a session on Thursday. She had me takeoff my brace and leave my cane and walker in the facility. She walked me outside on the lawn with a harness around my waist. She did not have a leash on it, but she just had her hand close enough that if I was going to fall over, she would grab it. The good news is I didn’t fall. I learned a lot about balance and the operation of the feet. Between the balancing exercises and this 15 to 20-minute walk I became aware of how important the tendons and muscles from your feet up your knee keep you balanced, walking in a consistent way and the ability to stop, go and respond to your environment.

I learned about “Slamming”. The hyperextension of a knee at the beginning or end of a step. As the reader you can probably guess this is an incorrect activity for walking. I had actually recognized this when walking up and down our cul-de-sacs in the neighborhood or crossing the street and walking back up the sidewalk. When I thought it was beneficial to get in 5000 steps, I adjusted my daily goals to about 3000 steps, but it took as long as walking for 5000. I’m going slower and taking methodical steps in the hopes to perform the steps perfectly. More to follow.

I worked two sessions with Stef, Monday and Thursday. Both days she really did a continuation of the physical therapy that I was doing with Donna. This back to back therapy really took a lot of energy out of me but it loaded me up with knowledge of what I needed to do when I was at home relaxing or energizing my leg, foot or left arm.

On Monday she had me bouncing a rubber ball and walking with my cane. That takes some concentration. We also played catch and I threw a ball from my right hand to my left hand in the air as well as bouncing it from the ground up. It actually gave me the opportunity to bounce it against the cabinet or wall at home. It’s best if Debbie is not home when I’m bouncing it against anything walls or the island in the kitchen.
For the record I put in some serious walks earlier in the week but after Thursday’s session with Donna I cut back on the distance and narrowed my walk to approximately 3 1/2 houses.  I turn around and walk back, covering only 300 steps back and forth, but the walk is relatively flat and consistent. I see my pace and perfect steps multiplying on each round.

Here is a rundown of the last week:

Monday-18-5000 plus steps and therapy
Tuesday,19-3500 plus steps
Wednesday, 20-6000 plus steps
Thursday 21-4000 plus steps and therapy
Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Monday-22-25-3500 plus steps each day. “Practice does not make perfect, Perfect practice makes perfect.”
Over this past weekend my steps were shorter, firm and soft as well as many stops to reset when I “slammed a step or two”.
A very good friend of mine’s husband had a stroke a few weeks ago. I found out about it through a text you sent me. Of course, I was shocked that has I started to write A response to his text I decided to just call him we spoke for over 20 minutes and we’ve become brothers through the stroke that affected our lives. I sent him in edible arrangements fruit plate. I was never a big fan until I had a stroke. Became a very refreshing treat as a snack or after a meal. I’ve also followed up a couple more times with a card and a text just to check in. He’s coming along and I plan on being a pain in the ass to him. Just do the work listen to your therapist get plenty of rest and it’s a new day every day.

I spoke to Kim, an agency representative from the Georgia market. We connected on Microsoft teams and caught up for approximately a half hour. She’s a great lady I made calls with her probably 2016 a couple of times. We always enjoyed the visit with our agents in the food around the meetings that we have scheduled.

My brother-in-law Frank stopped by us took a walk and I showed him some exercises and rehab thoughts and progress on my foot and hand. I recommended for him to go to Gentiles’ on Broadview Road. His schedule did not permit but the next time it does I’m sure he’ll check the place up.
Giuseppe stopped by on Tuesday. We had espresso and a couple of cookies while catching up on world events.
On Thursday, I picked up 4 cases of cookbooks (Italian Recipes and Ethnic Recipes from My Friends) and a case of (Today’s Heroes, Surviving with Style.) For the consistent blog readers, I have authored three books and my daughter Deanna authored two. (Lily’s Bows and Lily’s Zoo Adventure). They are available on this site. Happy to personalize them for you or as a gift.

It was great seeing Jane and Kate. First visit since CoVid shutdown. They always inspire me to keep writing. We even had lunch together in the back of Gourmands (Great to see Andrea and Greg and their staff). For the record, their V8 veggie sandwich was amazing! The visits lifted a bit of the last couple months off my back. Great seeing everyone.

Talked with Phil from DC. He liked my walking video and said I’ll never catch the ice cream truck if I don’t get some speed in my step. What and Inspiration that is!!! For the record, I’m on coconut milk ice cream and sorbet. But the ice cream truck is a great challenge!

Had a visit by Isabell and Frankie, we took a walk, had an espresso, hearing about the end of Isabell’s school year and music. Loved seeing them.

Rearranging the office/art room with John, moved the wall of music and components. It went slow but adds a new look to the room and also gave the sound a new feel. Thanks for the help John. A great CoVid project.

Deb made excellent fish tacos. Soft shells and a mango fruit salsa, it was like being on the gulf coast of Florida. The meals have been light, refreshing and delicious.

We got a work update; our sales team will commence visiting title agencies after June 1st with some restrictions. I’ll be happy to do some local visits with our agents.
If you know a real estate, lender or title professional, this shutdown did not exist for many. Some people worked remotely. While the industries were somewhat unprepared, all of them rose to the challenge. Many producing record numbers and making the “American Dream” a reality. Thank them. Real estate is an essential segment of the business world and keeps the economy moving forward.
If you are considering buying, selling or refinancing an existing home or investment property, inquire today. A huge THANK YOU to everyone in the title industry and related real estate businesses. You made changes, took precautions for your office and the public and kept that segment of the economy healthy.
We celebrated a social distance birthday party for Suzann at her home on Saturday the 23r, 6- old people, sitting 8 to 12 feet away. A bit hard to hear!!! The next generation. It was a blast and a beautiful night. Some appetizers, wine and an ice cream cake. Happy 65th Sue. A birthday to remember, and Frank hits 70 on July 17th. Maybe we could hug by then.
Deb made filet and baked potatoes one evening. First steak in 6 weeks. I ate about four ounces of meat and the potato with Nature’s Blend butter. A healthy substitute was a treat. I’ll probably have a piece of leftover steak one day with breakfast.
On an exercise note, I took a few trips with the walker around the house, on the lawn both, barefoot and with tennis shoes. The terrain really makes your feet adjust for balance and stability. It is very cool. The grass is refreshing, and it is beneficial to activating my left ankle and peroneus muscles and tendons. To Rick, PT, I promise to wear shoes and have my walker with me. I am reminded often, “Don’t fall” and “Don’t take big chances without help”. I’m on it.

Memorial Day was excellent, a beautiful afternoon downpour, John, Carissa, Angela and the family enjoyed a great barbecue-smoked brisket, chicken and ribs with a number of side dishes accompanied by champagne. Angela and Andrew brought over a Slip and Slide and the grandchildren took us back to our childhood. Debbie found a frog, Cooper held it captive for at least 20 minutes. He loved it and we finally talked him into release it back to nature. I’m sure it’s still suffering from PTS!
Before everyone left, we said our distanced goodbyes and I walked the driveway 10 times, in light rain, great ending to a summer kick off weekend.
Here is the Michael Jordan quote from the collage:
“Winning has a price. Leadership has a price. I pushed people when they didn’t want to be pushed. I challenged people when they didn’t want to be challenged. Bout I never asked them to do something I wasn’t willing to do myself.”

Michael Jordan #TheLastDance

Daily update May 4 to Friday May 17, 2020
So much progress in the last two weeks. Also, awareness of how my body is reacting to medication, diet, therapy and a new beginning. I am going to give you a two-week update, comprised mostly of the therapy and a handoff from Jesse and Linda, to Stef and Rick. As I have been writing about a week behind, I thought I would just catch myself up with this week and last week. And be able to write going forward as current as possible. The improvements have been many and to cut to the chase, I am walking through our home without a walker and most of the time without the cane. I am still using the AFO brace on my left calf and foot. (Caused by a condition called Drop Foot. The AFO is common assistance in stroke rehab, for weak or dysfunctional ankle or disruption of nerve pathway between the brain and foot). A:: the pictures follow the post.

 In regard to Jesse and Linda my occupational and physical therapist, with me for five weeks at my home on Mondays and Wednesdays. That ended on May 7. And on May 12 I went to University hospitals rehab in Neuro center to start face-to-face training with stuff for occupational therapy and Rick for physical therapy.

Thank you, Linda, Jesse, Derek and Fran. True professionals and dedicated to getting their patients to the next level. Missions accomplished!

I am still doing easily 10 practices from Jesse and at least 15 from Linda throughout the day. I have incorporated them into my activities. I’m able to either use my left hand or perform some of the leg exercises from Linda. They are both a complement to their occupations and to the people that they serve. I learned a lot from both of them and I use that information for the rest of my life. (Do the therapy, do not fall). Those are two things that you hear from the therapist and they’re very important.
I have had some visitors, and while talking I am doing leg lifts, playing with putty in my left hand or working an exercise band to strengthen my triceps or biceps on my left arm. (I was tested at the rehab center for strength in my right and left arms, my left arm is actually stronger). That’s what five weeks of basic training will do for you. The coordination and dexterity are still not 100%, but improvement keeps coming.

Many thanks to Linda and Jesse. I hope they stop by over the summer when they’re in the area just to say hello and challenge me to a new task.

The rehab center is an excellent facility, great people and they’re practicing social distancing. I arrive to get my ID, take my temperature, make me sterilize my hands and proceeded to the occupational therapist. After the first visit which was a consultation and an opportunity for both therapists to evaluate me. The machinery, equipment and spacing give the feel of the gym but have the serious tone of rehabilitation. If you ever have the opportunity, make sure you attend. These individuals are observant and knowledgeable. They were able to pick out slight discrepancies in my coordination, dexterity, balance in the firing of tendons and muscles. More to follow.

Rick, my new physical therapist met me at the rehab facility on May 10th. It became a religious experience for me. Actually, a flashback. Since April 5th, repeating part the day’s events, or a recount of how, when and where the stroke took place is not worth counting. While becoming introduced and evaluated, Rick and I were looking at my left foot as he discussed muscles, tendons, movement and progress. I shared that the left side of calf’s inability to move or react. Rick went to work. He shared that my strength and disconnect of the left Peroneus muscle/tendon on my left calf. An “Aha Moment” which took me back to the moment I felt the imbalance in my foot and numbness in my left foot and calf, approximately 12:15 PM on April 5th, Palm Sunday. It became crystal clear, that me and my Peroneus muscles and tendons, were going to be interacting most waking hours in the coming weeks and months. I have videos of me in rehab, with electrodes on, using my walker and walking as naturally as possible. A picture is in the collage.

The clarity, focus needed and learning to get my brain to fire and communicate with this area of my body is my dedication. Rick stated the damage done is merely a non-communication between the damaged part of my brain and the first affected area from the stroke. It is a great answer and put me on a mission. I have to learn to fire a message to my left foot, to be on my toes, lift my knee, allow my foot to swing past my left foot and plant my left heel ahead of my right foot, then start the right step, which has me roll onto my left toes and repeat the process. “EASY ENOUGH RICK!” thank you.  

This is as difficult as bowling workouts I have used in the past. I have realized all my bowling training (51 years), has been the foundation to learn how to walk again, support my body weight and eventually compete on the lanes, walk through an airport and running down Kiawah Island beach.

I requested of Dr. Richardson and Rick, electrode therapy and a product called Bioness (hopefully spelled correctly) on May 14 at physical therapy. Rick accommodated me with a small battery pack that he programmed to lift my left foot off the ground and engage the left side of my foot to the left. Four electrodes, two just left of my shin bone, two on the outside of my calf. The electric current is not a shock, more of a sensation, that is constant. After about 12 seconds, the ball of my foot lifted off the floor, effortlessly. “WOW! it worked”. Not the machine, my muscles and tendons. Rick then activated the other electrodes, and my foot expanded outwards. The visual was an inspiration to me. Knowing that the muscles and tendons could do their job.

Rick disconnected the two electrodes that fired the lifting muscles and tendons, and just wanted the left foot extension to the Peroneus on the foot. And then the fun began. We walked around the facility to a set up with railings that allowed Rick to fire the muscles and me to step, practice and feel and see the foot at work.

On May 14 I visited Dr. Richardson, neurologist for University Hospitals. It really doesn’t do him justice; he has a lot of initials after his name and I’m sure he has seen it all. The good news, I will see him in August and unless something out of the ordinary happens I will not see him again. He informed me that he liked my blood pressure, cholesterol and results from my annual physical on May 1. He also liked the progress I have made in walking and balance. He is not recommending any further CAT scans or MRIs. His diagnosis is a thrombotic stroke which was a blockage (blood clot) in a small blood vessel on the right center on the inside of my brain. I do have a picture, but I don’t think I’m going to be posting it online. If we see each other in person, ask me I’ll show you. Thank you, Dr. Richardson, and your assistant DeCheryl. I appreciate getting to know you and I’m genuinely happy and I look forward to our August appointment. The good news since April 5th, I have reduced my combined cholesterol to 101 and the good cholesterol, HDL clocked in at 44. My BP has stabilized with reading around 125/70 on a consistent basis. Both very acceptable to my family doctor and neurologist.

On May 1 I picked up a brand-new company car at Bedford Toyota. It was also the first time I drove since April 5.

A life lesson was waiting for Debbie and me in the parking lot along with a brand-new Toyota Camry. Because of the Covid shut down I did not have to go inside; I have some paperwork Brian head to look at and one document to sign.

But the story is about a man in an electric wheelchair that comes out of the dealership, rolls up to a very large pickup truck gets off the wheelchair, opens the driver side of which Debbie and I are unable to see. He then balances himself and goes around the wheelchair to the back of the pickup opens the gate and brings the electric wheelchair to the back of the truck. The gentleman is easily 240 to 270 pounds. He gets the wheelchair up and into the back bed of the truck and with a cane he proceeds into the truck. Debbie and I look at each other, this gentleman’s right leg is missing from above his knee. A very emotional moment for me. How could I ever feel sorry for myself for this inconvenience in my life. And that is exactly what I call it.

Pay attention to your life there are signs and lessons everywhere you go. As we were backing into the spot the gentleman made eye contact with me, I smiled at him and gave him a wave his smile was contagious, and it was happiness.

 I shared a quote with family and friends I learned at Yoga practice from early 2018. “Notice what you notice, when you notice it.” It is with me every day.

I had visitors in the last couple of weeks, Alan Papa, my sister Toni, Bill Feller and Paul Thompson for an afternoon visit. Giuseppe stopped by a couple times to say hello and enjoy an espresso. Giuseppe has a mask, gloves and coat. Having spent a month in Italy including three weeks of shut down, he is very serious about Covid and staying protected. Phone calls with Maureen from Port Angeles, Washington a title agent, future ALTA President and a friend. A big-time DC attorney named Bart, checked in on LinkedIn and we caught up online exchanging battle scars. Also, caught up with Sean from Columbus during Bill and Paul's visit.

All great visits and calls. I’m grateful for the friendship and time we spend together.
I received some pretty awesome items these last couple of weeks. A business colleague and friend Brad and his wife so sent me two Warther knives, we have about eight of them already and they are excellent cutlery. I received books regarding rehab and also the mental state of mind that you might be in from an event in your life from the Purgert family. They also included something in the envelope that was really unexpected and appreciated. I received some PPE products from my friend Ginny and Vince. Handy 2020 items to have in the house and auto. More food and wine showed up from John and Leslie. We drank their wine and enjoyed the antipasto that evening.

And almost every day at least a couple of cards show up with greetings from people, prayers thoughts excellent advice and warm wishes. I am touched by all of them and I am very grateful that you made the time to touch base with us.
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On Mother’s Day we had dinner with our daughters and grandchildren. It was very nice social distanced visit and meal. Spending a little time together was a treat. We also discussed summer vacation, which is supposed to happen in July. Hoping it becomes a reality. Happy Mother’s Day Debbie and Angela and all the mothers out there. You are loved and appreciated thank you for what you do. See a picture of Debbie and I with, Liliana, Cooper and Lucy in one of the collages.

My walks have gotten longer and my form for bringing my left foot into stride and cadence is getting better. While walking I am working on slower and shorter right leg steps and a more deliberate left footstep. “From a toe lift, knee bend, move the foot to the front of the step and plant heel to toe for the next step”. It is complicated and a process. Which we never had to think about when we were a year old. I have a picture in the collage with me at the rehab center with electrodes on my left calf and walking through an electric current, from the process in the quote marks early in the paragraph. I was happy to walk a cul-de-sac near our home and walking around 750-1000 steps per outing. On May 13th I walked 4056 steps in two walks and over 4500 on the 16th. The walks outside and now encompassed two cul-de-sacs which probably generate close to 2000 steps or right around a mile. We have also walked an adjoining stretch and finished the walk with one of the cul-de-sacs. Today, May 17 I clocked over 5200 steps, a post stroke record!

As an FYI, I finished all 50 years of James Bond movies. I’ve gone through 10 episodes of Hunters, with Al Pacino. Watched a couple seasons of The Money Heist and I have watched numerous rock ‘n’ roll documentaries. One of which I am developing a sales and relationship presentation. The miniseries are a waste of time. I should really read more, brainless activity. To date have received 12 books and a subscription to Wine Spectator, which has not been received yet. Thank you to my Monday morning call in to Marilyn, friend and lover of life.
I’ve also gotten into a miniseries on Netflix called The Chef Show, with Jon Favreau and Roy Choi. You can’t miss this, it’s eclectic and really informative. Favreau is a movie director, Roy is a world-famous chef, it is humbling to see that they are just students and enthusiastically learning along with the starring in the episodes. They want to learn from every one of their guests and want to share their secrets of the trade. Watch it, get hungry, get in your kitchen and create an adventure! Don’t forget the wine.

Leaving you with two quotes from Dove chocolate wrappers we opened
today, May 17.
“Throw kindness around like Confetti.”
 “Your vibe attracts your tribe.”

Daily update April 27 to May 3
 
Listening to “Watching the Wheels” by John Lennon from November 1980. His music has always moved me. This event in my life, has me watching, listening and beginning a new chapter.  It’s been part of my morning ritual while doing exercises.

I recently shared with someone, "This is an unrequested chapter in my life that is giving me an opportunity to learn and grow".
 
In today’s update I am covering 7 days to get caught up. The basic days consist of doing one to two rounds of exercise, eating and during the week, catching up with clients. On the last two weekends, we took a couple rides for surprise Drive-By parties, this past weekend, Anthony Barresi, turned “40” what a turn out for his celebration.
 
I’m starting the blog with two pieces from weekly newsletter (People Solutions) from JP Horizons, Beth and Jim Paluch. I have known the Paluch’s since 1992. Jim has authored books, conducts corporate consulting events and has always been a positive example in my life. You should visit his site, order his books and definitely subscribe to his newsletter. www.jphorizons.com 
 
Their recent newsletter titled: “Learning to Adjust.” They have granted permission to reprint the following excerpts, " In the Time of Pandemic" and "Life's Little Adjustments". I hope they give you perspective regarding the CoVid19 shutdown and reopening. We are all ADJUSTING. 
 
In the Time of Pandemic
by Kitty O'Meara
Published March 16, 2020 
 
And people stayed at home.
 
And they read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still.
 
And they listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently.
 
And the people healed.
 
And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.
 
And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.

Life's Little Adjustments
  
What are some things we choose to adjust without even thinking about it? Consider the following literally and figuratively:
 
The Temperature - If it's too hot, turn it down ... too cold, turn it up ... Could this apply to the way we do business, deal with others, and approach our health and fitness? 
 
The Volume - We all have a volume that pleases us most. How do you feel when it has to be adjusted for the sake of someone else's taste? Are you willing to adjust what you want to accommodate another? 
 
The Directions - One of the greatest things to learn in life is to be willing to stop and turn around. If it is obvious that you are moving in the wrong direction, are you willing to adjust the route? 
 
The Pace - When we want to go faster, it is simply a matter of pressing the accelerator. How often do we want to speed the pace without being willing to really push the accelerator in life? 
 
The Story - Everyone loves a good story and we all want the real story. But isn't it the personality of the storyteller that makes listening fun? How can we adjust the story of our lives, our businesses, our product by adding enthusiasm and passion to the telling of it? 
 
The Attitudes - One of the easiest things to see needs adjustment in others is their attitude. How can we see the need for an attitude adjustment in ourselves faster than we see it in others?
 
Linda my Physical Therapist taught me how to do “heel-toe” steps and crossovers.
These exercises are favorites. As a bowler heel-toe is a way to a smooth, well-timed approach. I have been walking heel-toe for over 45 years, learning the technique in my mid-teens. The crossovers, slow you down, create an awareness on balance and coordination. I am grateful for Linda’s dedication to keep me on her regimen of exercises. Precise and steady, she has me on my way to walking without support. Patience! I think I taught Linda a couple things in our time together. She said. “Practice”. I said, “Practice doesn’t make perfect, Perfect practice makes perfect.” a quote from a youth soccer player's t-shirt.
 
Jesse my Occupational Therapist is always creating and suggesting different activities to wake up the numbness in my arm, hand and cheek. They seem to be predominantly numb when I wake up or become fatigued. I have mentioned that before. I think if I timed having something in my left hand during the day, it could be 8-10 hours of activity. He shared some children’s slime, with unicorns. I keep it in the refrigerator and play with it cold for stimulation. There are 10 rubber unicorns, you work them in and then pull them out with the left hand only. I try to do it 2 or three times, twice a day. It is like working bread dough. It’s a fun activity. 
 
He also has me pick up coins with out watching, working exercises bands to develop my triceps and shoulders. Putting together a puzzle just using my left hand. I am going to start drawing with my left hand and maybe even practice printing. The toughest thing is holding the object in my hand steady and with coordination. coordination, dexterity and flexibility are a few terms he uses to wake up the nerves. 
 
My message to the reader, “Do not take your hands, feet, coordination and dexterity for granted”. Take a moment and look at your hand or foot and “Be Grateful”.
 
My sister Linda Jo stopped by Tuesday and took me for a walk. (That sounds funny, but it’s true). It was fun and having a companion to accompany me, is a prudent practice right now. We practiced social distancing, and she had the opportunity to see me maneuver over uneven curbs and sidewalks.

I wish I could have more visitors, but with Corona being active, I understand in time, things will loosen up.
 
Walked outside almost every day at least once. If the sun popped out, I did a couple walks. I am trying to do a cul-de-sac and go a little further each time. I did not start measuring my distance or steps until Sunday May 3rd, but I found it was approximately 400 sidewalk blocks, different sizes, on average 2 steps per block. I counted them in groups of 25. But 400 blocks are approximately 800 steps. If I can go a couple houses further, I get in 1,000 steps. This past week I had two days over 2,200 steps, 2351 steps 5/5/20 and 2250 steps 5/6/20.  That is just over a mile. Progress!
 
I set two goals for the future. A possible 5K later this summer if it is held. My son-in-law Andrew is organizing for Metro Health. And the big one will be walking the half marathon for the Cleveland Marathon next May. If that works, I will find an organization that supports stroke rehab and generate donations for them. I’m sure I’m going to recruit at least 5 to 10 people to walk with me. It could take 4 1/2 hours but if the weather is good, it’ll be a wonderful day. Let’s just hope there’s a 2021 event.
 
Watched a couple more James Bond movies from the late 90’s through mid-2000’s. Probably only four left to view and I will be finished with 50 years of 007 movies. Keep in mind at times it was four years between movie releases.  
 
Annual physical on May 1st added good news, my cholesterol dropped to 101. The Doc split my doses in half, which is very good. Other vitals were good and acceptable. Better eating habits., smaller portions and craving less white sugar and desserts like I used.
 
Received two albums this week, Buddy Guy double set and the brand-new Kenny Wayne Shepherd-Traveler album. With original music and a couple remixes, one of Cleveland’s own Joe Walsh. Thank you, Chuck and Alan. I love the blues by the end of the weekend I’m listening to both of them.
 
We had an incredible sales meeting on Wednesday, and we are planning our calls and follow up for May. Conversations with Phil Schulman, Bill Svoboda (looking forward to his sales sessions with Dr. Cynthia McGovern), Glen Stout and a number of title agents for updates in and around Ohio. I assisted a Florida agent with transactions in Ohio, that had good results for them and their clients. I have a genuine concern about the commercial real estate market and continue to keep my eye and ears open for articles or webinars on the topic.
 
Talk to Jan Hollenbeck 45 minutes one evening before bed, catching up on Midwest and PNW happenings. Always a pleasure hearing about their life and working on a rendezvous in Italy in 2021 or 2022.

A quote shared from my friend Ken Buzek, “One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself”. Lucille Ball American Actress.
 
Funny Corona Virus Shutdown Quote, “My $250,000 house got TP’d last night, it’s now appraised at $875,000”.
 
Here is an excellent quote to end the post. This is from my friend John Bommarito in Detroit Michigan. I mentioned John in a previous post regarding his espresso makers. But here is the quote that he sent me in a card on May 6th. “One thing, one step, one day at a time. So difficult to climb, so beautiful shall be the view.”

Until next week, All the Best.

Daily Update April through May 3
 
Listening to “Watching the Wheels” by John Lennon from November 1980. His music has always moved me. This event in my life, has me watching, listening and beginning a new chapter.  It’s been part of my morning ritual while doing exercises.
 
In today’s update I am covering 7 days to get caught up. The basic days consist of doing one to two rounds of exercise, eating and during the week, catching up with clients. On the last two weekends, we took a couple rides for surprise Drive-By parties, this past weekend, Anthony Barresi, turned “40” what a turn out for his celebration.
 
I’m starting the blog with two pieces from weekly newsletter (People Solutions) from JP Horizons, Beth and Jim Paluch. They have granted permission to reprint. I have known the Paluch’s since 1992. Jim has authored books, conducts corporate consulting events and you should visit his site, order his books and definitely subscribe to his newsletter. www.jphorizons.com 
 
Their recent newsletter titled: “Learning to Adjust.” Here are the two pieces which touched me, and I hope they do for you also during the CoVid19 shutdown and reopening. We are all ADJUSTING. Followed by a recap of the week.
 
 
 
In the Time of Pandemic
by Kitty O'Meara
Published March 16, 2020 
 
And people stayed at home.
 
And they read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still.
 
And they listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently.
 
And the people healed.
 
And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.
 
And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.

 
Life's Little Adjustments
 
 
What are some things we choose to adjust without even thinking about it? Consider the following literally and figuratively:
 
The Temperature - If it's too hot, turn it down ... too cold, turn it up ... Could this apply to the way we do business, deal with others, and approach our health and fitness? 
 
The Volume - We all have a volume that pleases us most. How do you feel when it has to be adjusted for the sake of someone else's taste? Are you willing to adjust what you want to accommodate another? 
 
The Directions - One of the greatest things to learn in life is to be willing to stop and turn around. If it is obvious that you are moving in the wrong direction, are you willing to adjust the route? 
 
The Pace - When we want to go faster, it is simply a matter of pressing the accelerator. How often do we want to speed the pace without being willing to really push the accelerator in life? 
 
The Story - Everyone loves a good story and we all want the real story. But isn't it the personality of the storyteller that makes listening fun? How can we adjust the story of our lives, our businesses, our product by adding enthusiasm and passion to the telling of it? 
 
The Attitudes - One of the easiest things to see needs adjustment in others is their attitude. How can we see the need for an attitude adjustment in ourselves faster than we see it in others?

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Linda my Physical Therapist taught me how to do “heel-toe” steps and crossovers.
These exercises are favorites. As a bowler heel-toe is a way to a smooth, well-timed approach. I have been walking heel-toe for over 45 years, learning the technique in my mid-teens. The crossovers, slow you down, create an awareness on balance and coordination. I am grateful for Linda’s dedication to keep me on her regimen of exercises. Precise and steady, she has me on my way to walking without support. Patience! I think I taught Linda a couple things in our time together. She said. “Practice”. I said, “Practice doesn’t make perfect, Perfect practice makes perfect.”
 
Jesse my Occupational Therapist is always creating and suggesting different activities to wake up the numbness in my arm, hand and cheek. They seem to be predominant when I wake up. I have mentioned that before. I think if I timed having something in my left hand during the day, it could be 8-10 hours of activity. He shared some children’s slime, with unicorns. I keep it in the refrigerator and play with it cold. For stimulation. There may be 10 pieces, you work them in and then pull them out with the left hand only. I try to do it 2 or three times, twice a day. It is like working bread dough. It’s a fun activity. I can also do it while talking on the phone, reading or at the same time I am doing leg exercise.
 
I can pick up coins with out watching, work exercises bands to develop my triceps and put a puzzle together just using my left hand. I am going to start drawing with my left hand and maybe even practice printing. The toughest thing is holding the object in my hand steady and with coordination.
 
My message to the reader, “Do not take your hands, feet, coordination and dexterity for granted”. Take a moment and look at your hand or foot and “Be Grateful”.
 
My sister Linda Jo stopped by Tuesday and took me for a walk. (That sounds funny, but it’s true. It was fun, but having a companion to accompany me, is a prudent practice right now. We practiced social distancing, and she had the opportunity to see me maneuver over uneven curbs and sidewalks. I wish I could have more visitors, but with Corona being active, I understand in time, things will loosen up.
 
Walked outside almost every day at least once. If the sun popped out, I did a couple of them. I am trying to do a cul-de-sac and go a little further each time. I did not start measuring my distance or steps until Sunday May 3rd, but I found it was approximately 400 sidewalk blocks, different sizes, on average 2 steps per block. I counted them in groups of 25. But 400 blocks are approximately 800 steps. If I can go a couple houses further, I get in 1,000 steps. This past week I had two days over 2,200 steps. 2351 steps 5/5/20 and 2250 steps 5/6/20. Progress!
 
I set two goals for the future. A possible 5K later this summer if it is held. My son-in-law Andrew is organizing for Metro Health. And the big one will be walking the half marathon for the Cleveland Marathon next May. If that works, I will find an organization that supports stroke rehab and generate dollars for them. I’m sure I’m going to recruit at least 5 to 10 people to walk with me. It could take 4 1/2 hours but if the weathers good it’ll be a wonderful day. Let’s just hope there’s a 2021 event.
 
Watched a couple more James Bond movies from the late 90’s through mid-2000’s. Probably only four left to view and I will be finished with 50 years on movies. Keep in mind at times it was four years between movie releases.  
 
Annual physical on May 1st added good news, my cholesterol dropped to 101. The Doc split my doses in half, which is very good. Other vitals were good and acceptable. Better eating habits., smaller portions and craving less white sugar and desserts like I used.
 
Received two albums this week, Buddy Guy double set and the brand-new Kenny Wayne Shepherd-Traveler album. With original music and a couple remixes, one of Cleveland’s own Joe Walsh. Thank you, Chuck and Alan. I love the blues by the end of the weekend I’m listening to both of them.
 
We had an incredible sales meeting on Wednesday, and we are planning our calls and follow up for May. Conversations with Phil Schulman, Bill Svoboda (looking forward to his sales sessions with Dr. Cynthia McGovern) and a number of title agents for updates in and around Ohio. I assisted a Florida agent with transactions in Ohio, that had good results for them and their clients. I have a genuine concern about the commercial real estate market and continue to keep my eye and ears open for articles or webinars on the topic.
 
Talk to Jan Hollenbeck 45 minutes one evening before bed, catching up on Midwest and PNW happenings. Always a pleasure hearing about their life and working on a rendezvous in Italy in 2021 or 2022.
A quote shared from my friend Ken Buzek, “One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself”. Lucille Ball American Actress.
 
Corona Virus Shutdown Quote, “My $250,000 house got TP’d last night, it’s now appraised at $875,000”.
 
Here is an excellent quote to end the post. This is from my friend John Bommarito in Detroit Michigan. I mentioned John in a previous post regarding his espresso makers. But here is the quote that he sent me in a card on May 6th. “One thing, one step, one day at a time. So difficult to climb, so beautiful shall be the view.”
 
In the time of pandemic and life’s little adjustments were viewed in the weekly newsletter of JP horizons Beth and Jim Paluch. Longtime friends and business consultants. Permission granted to reprint by the by JP Horizons

April 25-26, 2020
 
Author’s Note: Week four was easier than the first three. I lost another pound or two. Less overall reading, definitely more exercise. Great meetings with Linda and Jesse. I walked outside almost every day, sometimes twice. We had a hard time finishing an entire bottle of wine this week. One glass for  a taste and that was it. I find myself eating nutrition bars for snacks. Our friend Paula Smoleny brought us fresh fruit, homemade granola, scones and muffins. Paula is an incredible baker and cook. Thank you, it was delicious. Debbie bought all the ingredients and were going to make granola this week. I had a funny conversation with Dan Wold, our general counsel who lives in Minnesota. Always packed with funny stories, he wanted to find out how life was flipping its cards too me. I hope I can sit and a dinner table with Dan before the end of 2020. A good friend and funny guy. He is also a future president of American Land Title Association. My sister linda Jo stopped by and went on a walk with me. fresh air, children talk and social distancing. That's a nice thing.
 
So, the weekend had a funny twist to it. Saturday the 25th was a beautiful day, with temps in the 60s and I was lucky enough to do my exercises outside on the deck. We have a loveseat and a chair with an ottoman. I did a little bit of work little bit of typing writing on the chair. I moved over to loveseat did more reading and fell asleep. Woke up went to the house and got a blanket and laid down and ended up taking almost an hour and a half nap outside on the loveseat. When I woke up, I was disoriented in a good way it just took me a little while to wake up. Once I did, I went back in the house got something to drink. Please understand after a stroke, you are trying to wake up the numb parts of your body. Left arm, foot and in my case, the left side of my face. They are actually always asleep to different degrees. The therapy is to get the nerves and muscles to fire them up. When you sleep well. It takes some time to wake up. (For the short-term, jumping right out of bed or up from a nap, is going to take months to get back too).
 
Then we see family friend, Brian Bauman come up the driveway. A school friend of my son John since 1996. Brian and I sat on the deck, social distancing and we talked for about 45 minutes. He got me up on everything that he’s been doing with work, his girlfriend, his sister and nieces and his parents.
 
Brian is one of the hardest working people I know, and he has one of the biggest hearts. He is very charity oriented and has been a gentleman ever since I met him at about the age of seven. We had a great visit I look forward to hearing about more of his adventures hopefully one social distancing ends. As a note he and his family put on a charity event for The Richie White Pediatric Family Fund years ago. It was a success. We raised around $1500 from attendees for him to shave his head shaved. I’ll never forget those moments. Thank you, Brian and the Bauman’s.
 
I’m not a calorie counter but would be interesting to find out how much food I am really consuming. My meals have been light, and I will say that I’m eating five times a day. Virtually eliminated all junk food and snack food from my diet. And probably I’ve been eating vegetables fruit at least 75 possibly 80% of the time. The portions are much smaller. I mentioned earlier that whatever Debbie makes I’m going to eat. She does give me choices most of the time, I just say whatever you want to make and is most convenient. I’ve also eliminated most of the dairy in my life. I’ve eaten sorbet a few times and it’s pretty refreshing and takes care of my sweet tooth.
 
Also, I mentioned last time that I took out James Bond’s 50-year anniversary set of DVDs. I watch through 1980 prior to the shutdown. I have started to watch the early 1980 movies. I love how James very rarely gets a dirty shirt, always wear a tie and wipes out a bunch of bad guys, with a handgun or someone else’s machine gun. He never walks too fast or he runs very fast. And with a handgun he can take out 10 to 20 people that have machine guns. As I am typing this, I have to say I don’t know that I’ve ever seen James Bond eat anything. Possibly a strawberry and if that was the case it was probably fed to him by one of his gorgeous women. Another funny thing about James Bond movies, there’s always a casino scene and everybody’s got a quarter of $1 million on the table! What a cool character.
 
Debbie made dinner, she grilled halibut which was lightly seasoned and served it with a fresh mango salsa and on the side and arugula salad. I’ve just been dressing those with a little lemon and olive oil. Pretty delicious meal.  As a note, overeating, which I regularly did, is quite uncomfortable now. Eating less is a better habit to get into as I rehab.
 
So, between the music, 65° weather, a nap on the deck, some reading, and a great dinner Saturday ended up being a pretty special day.
 
Sunday, April 26 was three weeks since I had the stroke. In one sense time flew by, in one sense and another each day has been a renewal, facing a few challenges and making a little progress. It really compares with starting a career, going back to school or trying to develop a new habit. Every day you can attack it however you like. At the end of the day you get live with your efforts of the day. Finding each day my strength getting better and my body starting to coordinate with the work I’ve been putting into the week of the muscle groups I’ve concentrated on.
 
Sunday started out with the exercises and a pretty steady flow of rain all day. Alan Papa spent about an hour, recapping his week at the hospital and mine at home. He’s getting ready to pull the trigger and purchase an espresso maker. It will change his life; I gave him some beans that I had and this time next week when he shows up for a visit and we have a couple of espresso, he’ll be sharing his new adventures with his machine. A side-note my family doctor, Michael Saridakis, also bought a new espresso/coffee maker. For everyone’s knowledge, the machine I own is a Gaggia, Referred to me by my friend, title professional and guitarist, John Bommarito from Detroit. John owns two, One at his office and one at home. When we were at conventions John and I scope out the local bean roaster/café, we spend our mornings or afternoons with an espresso break.
 
By the end of the conference we usually have a group of 5 to 7 that join us, for the afternoon ritual. If you’re interested in an espresso machine, WWW.wholelattelove.com You can trust the refurbished machines, and you can purchase beans and accessories. They have something for everyone whether you have $200 budget, or you want something with more options. Since were talking about espresso machines, if you’re looking for a high-end machine that was purchased in Italy, my friend Rick Albertini could make you a deal! Send me a message for details. Rick is the most learned and informed café beans person I know.
 
With Sunday’s rain I was able to work on wRiting, reading and relaxing (The 3 R’s for old people). We got in the car in at 2:10 and drove to Mentor Ohio to do a drive-by happy anniversary to our cousins, Bertha and Ray Barresi- 45years! Congratulations on a great party, in the rain, under a tent and a parade of family and friends driving by doing virtual hugs, dropping off gifts and wishing them the best. The party was a surprise that was pulled off by their daughter Heather and maybe sons, (David and Christopher). But the Facebook invite came from my Heather.
 
From Mentor we drove to Ohio City and made an exchange with Deanna, and then headed home via Tremont. We did a drive-by of my favorite Cleveland Cafe, Loop Cafe and records. They were closed, I don’t think that I would’ve stopped but I hope that they’re doing well, and I look forward to sitting in their courtyard this summer.
 
Since this update is about plugging different things in events, if you’re visiting me in Cleveland, you’ve probably went to Gourmands Deli and Cafe, were you can pick up a cigar, a bottle of wine or beer. One of the coolest places in Cleveland, owned by a great couple Andrea and Greg, and their incredible staff. If you have my Ethnic cookbook look up the Vegan Red Lentil Chili. It’s vegan, delicious and a very easy recipe to make.
 
This trip from our home to Mentor into Cleveland and then home took us about 2 1/2 hours. I did nothing but sit in the car look outside and listen to music, I was really exhausted when we got home. We did have some dinner and settled back for an hour or two. Monday comes Physical and Occupational therapy. Along with conference calls and customer follow up for the title industry. Happy to be re-energized for the new week.
 
Let me share one last note with you. Linda and Jesse, Physical and Occupational therapists have become a big part of my life, because of the reminders that occupy my home to use, handle and exercise with to wake up my muscles and nerves. They are friendly reminders of our medical professionals that are dedicated to the public’s best interest. You two are in my heart. Thank you, I know that we won’t be working together much longer but I’ll never forget the encouragement and passion that you both do your job.
 
Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams, than you are to your comfort zone. Billy Cox
 
Trust yourself. You’ve survived a lot, and you’ll survive whatever is coming. Robert Tew

 

 April 20-24, 2020
 
On Thursday the 23rd, I spoke with Brian Dean, neighbor and friend since 1997. He was curious about the stroke, how I was feeling and the rehab progress. We discussed each and I shared the numbness I have on my left side, and the loss of use in my foot and hand. He said he was sorry about the loss of my communication skills. I was confused and asked what he meant. Brian said “John your Italian, loss of the movement and coordination, mainly my left hand. That’s a speech impediment! I can’t complain. It’s very  funny!  The photo collage is food created by our family over the last couple of weeks.
 
I’m going to give you a whole week’s update in 2 to 3 pages. And then I’ll probably post a couple times a week just to update on where I’m at during this journey post stroke. This week brought a few realities to me, time is needed for correct healing.
 
My therapists, Linda and Jesse come over twice each week and worked me over for about an hour each time. Well needed. I’m learning a lot and it’s helping the process. Interestingly, enough I found out this week is that I just have to be dog determined to walk correctly, keep my balance in order and start to function normally. Whatever the definition of normally is, without looking prior to April 5, 2020.
 
Linda and I had two great sessions this week. She is determined to really do the exercises as disciplined as possible when she is here. She introduced a couple of new things like standing on my toes, walking with a cane, I should really say practice with a cane and some rubber bands for exercise. They create a tension that strengthens the muscles in the knees and legs. Jesse did the same thing for hand and upper body strength. I can feel it at the end of the day as well as the following morning.
 
Linda also asked me if I had any pain and how I was managing it. Well I did have some aches in my muscles I did not think about taking any kind of a pill. But I am taking some Tylenol and it’s relieving some of that pain and/or muscle fatigue. Thank you, Linda.
 
I clocked in about 20 to 25 hours’ worth of work and I need to tell you about a webinar that I listen to on Wednesday for an hour and a half. The man’s name is Darren Hardy. I met him 4 or 5 years ago. Incredible individual. He thrives on helping people in all levels of business. Personally, Darren knows people like Elon Musk, Sir Richard Branson and many others influencers and business leaders. His seminar was about 10 Questions that we should be asking ourselves and business leaders throughout our lives. He moved me with many things that he talked about, but he names three things that are coming out of the CoVid 19 lockdown, that hit home.

There are three major areas people are being affected:

1. Physical
2. Mental
3. Financial
 
That should give you plenty to think about when you are talking with people about this time. To be sensitive to whatever their situation might be. And I think we all know somebody in all the categories.
 
One other thing that he made a point about was that this lockdown will be as big of an issue in our lives as the 1930 depression was in our parents and grandparents and the 2007 financial recession that we experienced in our careers. In my life I’ve never seen a worldwide affect like this pandemic.
 
Which leads me to say I feel very fortunate which I’ve said before with being given a second opportunity to learn to walk and regain my strength and coordination. This webinar put a lot of things in perspective. Personally, it’s going to make me a better person just having the perspective he shared as well as giving me insight of family, friends, business associates and customers. And their employees, families etc.
 
That’s some heavy conversation. I’ll touch base a little bit about the people that called me this week. I’ve heard from my cousins (Joanna, Gina and Monica) in Arizona, the Shoop’s brought us some homemade cabbage rolls that were incredible! We enjoyed them for two meals. I received a couple of gift baskets, coffee from the Pearson’s in California (I’ll be revved up for weeks), fruit from the Neely’s and…, I am in receipt of barbecue from Kenny and Alyssa Monacelli, Austin Texas which was enough food for the family. Every day five or six cards come in the mail and that is humbling. I can’t say how grateful I am to everyone. Cards have come in from around the country with very kind words of encouragement and a speedy recovery. I also receive some holy cards which is very kind from Carol Pozelnik and my sister Toni, and a card with Saint Anthony on it and prayer cards from different parishes. I spoke with Mike Cardamone, (He is a prayer warrior, no kidding), we worked together and stay in touch since he retired. All very kind and considerate.
 
I believe that the people from Edible Arrangements are wondering what happened to me. But I appreciate them stopping by every couple day. I need to send them a big tray of Italian meatballs!
 
This blog has been remarkable. Some of the posts received over 200 likes and the very first one I believe received over 140 comments. If that was you, I want to say thank you very much. I read every comment, Liked them all, and I apologize I could not respond to everyone. If you say something in Italian I probably will respond, because I will have to use a translator to find the meaning.
 
I received a phone call from Phil, a big-time Washington DC attorney that had two jokes for me, but I cannot repeat here. He did not know about the stroke and when I told him, he went into a different mode. What a guy, one of my favorite speakers in the country. Thanks Phil and I can’t wait to get into the books you sent me.
 
I had a great conversation with Glen from Tampa with our company in the IT department. He’s a big shot computer guy, Glen and his wife are foodies to the top degree. He just bought a great pizza oven and made the first pizzas last week. He sent me a picture of the pizza in the new oven which goes up to 900°. Cooks a pizza very quickly and looked delicious.
 
I spent about a half hour on the phone with our CEO Mark. He wanted to make sure I wasn’t working too much, was getting enough rest and that I was listening to Debbie. I answered yes to all his questions. And I’m grateful to have him call and check in on me. When it comes to leadership, he wrote the book.
 
My son and daughter stop by at different times to drop off food or we’re picking up food. They post pictures every night on the family text chain that we have of what they’re cooking. Creative, simple, complex and always looks delicious. You’re doing a great job. They could write a coronavirus shut down cookbook. And they should. Debbie and I are eating food that were gifts, cooking meals and we’re making some pretty good tasty and healthy food. I’ve not been very picky and tell her whatever she wants to make I’ll eat. Thursday night she made grilled Portabella mushrooms with some other grilled vegetables. She serves them a grained bread with Coleman mustard and I used a little bit of a fig preserves. I have to be honest it was like eating the best hamburger I ever have in my life with no cheese and no fat! We also sent out to Farinacci’s for pizza one evening, without cheese and it was delicious. Debbie made a pot of Ribelotta, and Italian vegetable soup served with crusty bread that we learn to make in Italy. Who knew we were going to be eating comfort food in April.
 
We also experienced a lot of cold weather this week along with snow on a couple of days. I never remember this much snow after April 10, but we’ve had about three days of it. It is great just to sit on the deck and 65 or 70° weather. Hopefully we won’t have to wait too long.
 
I’ve been struggling through a book and I have to finish reading and I watched a Ted talk by a Jacqueline Woodson. Her talk was about being a slow reader. And I’m prepared to do about a half hours’ worth reading tonight after I finish writing this. An excellent 11 minute talk, if you have the time.
 
It is a tough time not being able to see grandchildren, but we do see videos or pictures of them through our texts. They’re very busy and they’re doing some cooking with mom and dad. There’s a lot of homemade bread being made, wonderful appetizers and meals. I’ll share a few pictures on this blog.
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If anyone can connect with me on how to imbed a video, I’ll start to add links or vids for you to enjoy.
 
I am hoping to go for a ride on Sunday the 26th. It’s for a surprise anniversary, Bertha and Ray, so if that happens, I might put a video next week for you to view. That will be something that would be very special for me. I have left home to walk a couple houses or halfway around the block a number of occasions, of course I’m using the walker. But driving the car will be fun.
 
It is hard to believe the month of April is winding up. I’ve been working from home since approximately March 13. 3 1/2 weeks before the stroke. And I will have in 3 full weeks after the stroke when this is posted.
 
The next post will be from the weekend, April 25 and 26. Sometime the week of the 27th. Thank you for checking in. please share the blog and write a comment.

Daily update-4-17 to 19-2020


NOTE: So, I’m getting ready to post this on April 25th and the week has been really good. Stronger each day. A little more disciplined with rehab and actually, better form on the exercises. My muscle memory is returning, but there is a lot of numbness on my left hand and arm as well as my cheek, which radiates at times to my lips, left eyelid and sinuses. Life goes on… here is a good quote from Dr. Kevin Elko, a sports psychologist, business consultant and an inspirational speaker. “I don’t have to, I get too” I love that quote and I have 2 framed copies of the quote that my friend, Victor Rzepecki of Phoenix sent to Cleveland. One hangs in my office at home, the other at work.

So, I’m condensing the weekend starting with Friday the 17th and sharing through Sunday the 19th. Seems that each day is getting better, I’m feeling stronger throughout the day. I’m also accepting the fact that I tire after a morning of exercising, eating and catching up on things on my to do list.

A nap or laying around for a couple hours really relieves my whole body. To share with you the last couple of nights and mornings, my blood pressure has been getting close to what it used to be 130 over the high 60s. The bottom number has been a little bit higher sometimes high 70s or low 80s. But it’s refreshing to see a 130 Number on top. Also, my pulse rate fluctuates from the 50s through the low 90s. It has never been a problem in my life, but it is interesting to keep track of the numbers.

Friday, I got a few hours of work in. Lined up lunch for a handful of title agents around the state of Ohio and Kentucky. That is very fulfilling to know that these folks are working to serve the public in a way I’ve never had to before. And getting great results. The real estate community, lending community and title community are essential. I’ve worked for a long time raising political action dollars for our industry. I believe today our members who are non-givers or non-believers in our efforts are going to become believers. Our people in Washington, DC and state houses around the country, have reach out to our legislators and their staffers, to discuss efforts in streamlining our industry. And they are listening. We are getting legislation adopted and passed. Our legislators are listening. They know how vital real estate and mortgages are to the economy, and none of it is possible without clear title. For once, price is not a forefront issue. Get the title searched and close with as little headaches as possible. It’s a great industry!

I have spent the mornings doing some writing and updating in my journal. Reading a new book, (I received from Jan and Doug. Traveling companions in Italy. The book, Engine 2 Diet), more to come on that in the future and getting ready for the day. When I finish and head downstairs, my first stop is a dining room chair to do some arm push-ups, stands, leg exercises and a ball toss. Then I head out to the kitchen for a few more exercises in front of the sink holding onto the counter and then a little breakfast. That is almost set like clockwork. I missed stepping outside on Saturday when the temperature got in the high 50s and sunshine. So today Sunday the 19th, I committed to go outside as soon as I got downstairs. We went outside and I ran into three neighbors before I got to the end of the drive which started conversations that took almost 15 minutes. I was actually tired before I started to walk down the street. We walked two houses, ran into another neighbor talked for eight minutes, an estimate, and then I turned Luke Skywalker back towards home. Pretty happy with myself, I broke up a few conversations to Move On. That is definitely not like me, but it will keep me energized.

I plan on taking a walk outside Sunday evening, most likely before dinner.

I’m actually eating less, and I don’t have a big craving for flavor. But I do usually eat everything that Debbie makes or my children who have been cooking and baking up a storm. I am not overdoing it on carbohydrates, sugars and fatty foods. It’s sort of funny but the cravings almost ended instantly. My sister Linda Jo brought me some sorbet the middle of the week. I’ve always been an ice cream guy, vanilla, butter pecan and some with a little chocolate. The Sorbet sat in the freezer for a couple of days, Friday evening Debbie asked me if I wanted a bowl. I said a little bit of each. They were delicious. In the short term I could probably get by with a little bit every couple of days. It was cold and refreshing!

Since this journey began on April 5, I started at about 189 pounds that morning prior to the stroke. The morning after I arrived home April 8, I weighed myself and I was around 181. I wanted to get under 180 for quite some time. But not as quickly as this. The last time I checked my weight Thursday, April 16 I was just over 182. I’m content right there right now.

I’m actually looking forward to some sunshine in the next week or so I can sit on the back deck and work on a tan on my legs and chest. To my dermatologist, Dr. Hirsch I’ll keep the hat on I promise, and I’ll wear sunscreen. But I know that the sun’s vitamin D will heal my body quicker.

Friday afternoon I made the decision to get these updates on the blog. I had a conversation earlier in the week with Kate from Streamline CLE, she got me pretty connected with pulling the word docs over and having it in bedded into the blog. In the future I’d like to put some links as well as some photographs. I just think it’s easier to read when you got a visual. Saturday, I went live and today Sunday the 19th I put up the fourth post. Which gets us to about April 8. 

We had a visit early Sunday afternoon by our nephew Frank, his wife Angela and our niece Isabell. They brought us a half a dozen of cranberry orange muffins. When they left, I went in the basement, made an espresso, enjoyed half a muffin and relaxed and wrote this update

Isabell is a Rockstar, a junior with a 4.5 grade average! She balances out people like me. I hate to admit it, but I think I was maybe a 2.8 as my best. I’m really not embarrassed, shortly after graduating high school I picked books and never have set them down. It was actually a motivating factor in authoring the books that I have published. Do you know a kid from the east side of Cleveland that has three books in the Library of Congress! Mom and Dad would be proud.

Now back to Isabell. I found some rock ‘n’ roll T-shirts online and I gave them to her when they showed up today. We practice social distancing, they stood on the back deck and Debbie and I were in the house. A couple of the shirts dated back in the 1960s and 70’s, Led Zeppelin, Janice and the Beatles. A couple of them are from Trunk, for the rock and rollers you know what I mean. I was very excited to share these with her. I hope they fit, and she wears them like a true rock and roller. Here’s the newest fact I learned on care for these shirts. How do you iron a T-shirt that have a picture or saying on it? Inside-out. I ironed all of them and folded them sitting on a chair with the ironing board in front of me. Debbie warned me twice not to burn myself. I had beat her to it. I told myself the same thing about a half a dozen, “Be careful that iron is hot”.

We had a great visit with Frank, Angela and Isabell.

Two things when you’re in rehab, that you here over and over. "Don’t fall and don’t burn yourself." For an old guy I’m learning about taking care of myself. After they left, I rearrange some things and finished writing seven thank you notes, (It took about 40 minutes), but they are addressed and stamped and ready to go out. I’m a little behind on my notes, but they’re all in order and I’ll catch up on thank you cards.

On Saturday I actually watched two episodes of the Heist and Hunters. They are on Netflix I believe. It’s brainless entertainment, personally I feel like I’m wasting a lot of time, but it gives me an opportunity to put my legs up and relax. I’m not a friend of multitasking. One thing at a time and do it right. But watching these helped me pass about 3 1/2 hours of time.

Somewhere around here I have all of the James Bond movies, and I had watched up to 1978 or 79 last year. I think I’m going to dig those out and give the next few years a view, get some relaxation and watch them. Possibly knock a few off in the next week or two.

I hope you’re enjoying the updates; they are very therapeutic for me.

I'm really look forward to this weekend, with nothing on the schedule except exercise and relaxing. We have had a couple of visitors. They really take it out of you, not the individuals personally. Just the interactions. When folks are here, I try to walk a little bit for them left my legs and pick some things up with my left hand, just to give them an idea of where I’m at in this journey. I think they appreciate it and it helps eliminate some of the questions.

This update is just over two full pages of print, and I am dedicated to keeping it that short whether it’s a one day or three-day update. So, thank you for checking in, please share the website johnvoso.com

Thank you and have a great week!
​John

 Daily update 4-14-2020
NOTE: This post is from Tuesday the 14th. I am writing on the 22nd. Progress is going well. Monday, I learned about Environmental Support, from Linda the Physical Therapist. I walked from the dining room to the kitchen and back, with the walker. She was happy and also wanted me to go slow and be  careful. understandable. Environmental Support is using a wall, door jam, countertop etc. to maneuver around an area (my definition). I immediately put the words in my phone, and told Linda i would share it on the blog. Linda also demonstrated and let me take a couple laps with a cane on Monday the 20th. More to follow later.
But remember, the most important thing in rehab, is not to do anything stupid or careless and take a FALL! I go that message loud and clear.

​Tuesday the 14th started with a burst of energy. Woke up did some exercises on the bed had about a half hour conversation with Debbie. We put a plan together for the day. I finished the update for the day before getting ready to go downstairs.

I completed a little groundwork for a client that we were doing a special project in about seven of his operations. Was about a half hour worth of communication talking and emailing.

I put a call into my webmaster Kate Toma. We were discussing the website for the update blog. I became sick to my stomach. I had to cut the call short I never got back on the phone with her the rest of the day. Spent the next couple of hours just trying to feel a little bit better.
I made myself go downstairs around 11 o’clock trying to do a couple of exercises. I needed to get something in my stomach. I showed Debbie a Facebook post from the weekend. They prepared eggs quickly and efficiently. She made me a very thin omelet, you set a soft tortilla on it just before flipping. You allow the omelet to cook through for about 20 seconds. Flip it back over on the tortilla to warm and place whatever you like on the inside. I elected for a little bit of Swiss cheese and some black pepper. You could add salsa, avocado, ham and cheese. During this time of the pandemic whatever you have in your refrigerator or fresh counter you could use. Complete with as a roll up. It was delicious and it hit the spot. My stomach was settled, and I had a visitor coming about 11:30 AM to drop off a document. We spoke for almost 45 minutes from the kitchen through my screen door. And I wore a mask!

We settled into the afternoon. I did a couple more therapy exercises with Debbie at my side. She prepared a sandwich for a snack and I settled in on a chair in the family room. Fortunately, throughout this new chapter in my life I have not turned the TV on early in the day. So, I missed Governor Mike DeWine and Dr. Aton’s daily updates. I cannot tell you that I miss them. Prior to the stroke I was listening and practicing both social distancing, clean hands and environment. I still am. I was actually keeping track of the number of sick people in Ohio as well as the number of deaths in the state. I missed a few days last week and just put a total in probably on Holy Saturday. And I need to update that today. Sad thing is watching that numbers grow. The good news it is flattening. It will grow again if we are given permission to leave our homes and socialize in big numbers.

For those of you that know me, a big part of my life is socializing. On March 13 I began to social distance. I was becoming very good at it, clocking from our family room close to 40 hours a week Monday through Friday for work. And then watching movies, cooking, watching great documentaries on rock ‘n’ roll and just working around the home. Well I want to get myself better and move around without balance being my number one priority.

I’m afraid we may be social distancing through the summer. If that’s the case I will make leaps and bounds in my recovery, develop a habit of eating a lot better and strengthen my upper and lower body just from the therapy. I also believe there is a creative energy running through all of us if we take the time to sit down and let ourselves speak to ourselves. There is going to be music written, books, plays, and movies created. Businesses are going to be retooled and work processes changed for the better. Artist Are going to cover canvases, wood, anything that they could get their hands on with colors, landscapes and thoughts that they have grabbed through this shut down that has given us an opportunity to get into ourselves.
I have actually been inspired for a sales presentation. It’s going to be a good one! I have listened to a handful of webinars in our industry on workflow, process and communication skills. The bottom line prior to the coronavirus we were too BUSY to take the time to think about it and its long term affects. I think some of these ideas could’ve helped us do more business, more efficiently and profitably.  We have a product called Pavaso. It’s been a reality for over 2 1/2 years. Three weeks ago, 2700 companies applied to use it. A complete overload. As our people get their arms around the applications people are starting to use the product and they say it’s easier. It will change the industry and products just like it. I watched another webinar, to very bright young industry changers talked about texting and its effectiveness. It was a productive hour. I emailed him and told him, great hour and content, good luck and I’m looking forward to their next webinar.

Another feeling that I strongly have is the people that are reaching out and communicating by Zoom, Go-To-Meeting or other ways to be face to face while social distancing are going to make a huge impact on their business, relationships and will even sculpt the new look of our business and industry.

Business is getting done and people are learning without the old clichés, “We don’t have time to change” or “That will never work”. My advice, no matter what industry you work in, get off your TV, set up a time to watch an hour or a half hour of news a day, schedule time to watch a movie or documentary and steal some ideas. Write them down. Pick up a book and look for something to grab your attention. Always review the Chapters of a new book. If you find any interesting topic, flip to that page. Even if it is 200 pages in. Read it. That may be all you need from that book today or ever. Make notes and look for an opening to develop.  Schedule your day for some creative time. We are definitely in a time of renewal. Draw, paint, sculpt, organize and renew.

As a lifelong salesperson, think of other ways to connect with customers, I am hearing of inexpensive and creative ways to touch people from folks all over the country.

I write/read in a journal every day. It was given to me by my son-in-law Andrew for Christmas. In March I made a commitment to write a quote about Calmness every day. For April I decided to write a quote on Renewal. On April 5 I had a stroke. After I was released from the hospital on April 7, I missed the next few days journaling. I went back and filled in a couple of notes and on the bottom of the page for April 13, I wrote “a stroke survivor is reborn “. And yesterday I wrote “life renews itself daily! “JV Jr. What a work! Calmness and Renewal, and BAM, a stroke, and both are now part of my healing process. That’s crazy, but I’m rolling with it.

We had dinner brought in from a neighbor, Pam Skelton. Corleone's is a fine Italian restaurant close to Independence Ohio. She has three brothers there are vegetarians one or two may actually be vegans. I have a heck of a time telling the three men apart. One of them loves the portobello mushroom medley. It consists of roasted and sautéed vegetables. Very tasty we also had a Napolitana pizza and a side salad. This was a delicious dinner with no animal proteins. We were full and satisfied. Maybe the Skelton brothers are onto something. All I had for dessert tonight was a graham cracker. That’s pretty weak for me. But I feel very good. Since the stroke, I am not consuming or craving sugar. That is beneficial, and it will lend to a healthier recovery. I did some exercises on the couch and called it a night around 915. Thank you, Skelton Family.

Before I finish this update, I have to tell you about Jesse, the occupational therapist. We spent an hour together this afternoon. Jesse is from Georgia. He is a dead giveaway as soon as he spoke. His character and his mannerisms. I just flat out asked him, where you from? He said Atlanta. He is a Veteran and spent time in Minot, ND. And has a handful of jokes that he shared with us on each visit. He gets people laughing, while he’s helping you do the simplest things that you take for granted with your hands or arms, your whole life. I spent three days in Minot, with some of the finest Title Professionals in the industry at their Christmas dinners. It never got warmer than -30 degrees. We had two great dinners, hosted by Paula and Tim. Tim introduced us to Chef Michael Monzon-a Teppan Chef, internet sensation, TV personality and a great guy Find him on Facebook. And Mr. Richard Turner, a Card Mechanic. Richard is extraordinary! To say the least. I will share a link; 
https://youtu.be/nPuQF3eSJ
so you watch him and be amazed. We had breakfast, dinner twice and I watched in amazement and delight at his trade.

Back to Jesse, I now I have a container of rice and a container of elbow macaroni’s with a little items in them like a black clip, little things from a pen drawer or junk drawer an eraser, paperclips, a little rubber stopper Just miscellaneous items that I can pick up identify and then reach back in to the rice or pasta. All with my left hand. It’s pretty juvenile, but beneficial for getting the feeling and coordination back in that hand. He also had me picking up coins off of a wooden table. This is not great for building your self-esteem! He had me do it with my eyes closed, I had no clue, couldn’t feel them or can pick them up. Jesse backed off and said let’s do that with your eyes open. I’m happy to say that produce much better results.

Next we filled up two nice size containers at the sink. The first one with hot water (100 degrees) and second with cold water and ice cubes, (approximately 32 degrees). My job put my left hand in the hot water and squeeze a sponge for two minutes and then switch over to the cold water for a minute squeezing sponge alternating back-and-forth three or four times until the cold water really starting to affect my hand. Jesse said that’s good. You can feel your left hand, mostly the cold sensation. The exercise is to wake up your nerves.
Throughout his visit he explained the nerves in my hand and arm, they went dead, and we were waking them up. He ran a massager over my hand and arms, He also ran a dishrag through the palm of my hand and rubbed it in the palm of my hand all to activate life. I will tell you I’ve been taking a lot of things for granted for 63 1/2 years.
Without going into every exercise, we did on Tuesday afternoon, I was given a number of great opportunities to accelerate my recovery. Thank you, Jesse. Day 10-Out!

Quote for Calmness-Always ask: "What will happen if I say nothing?"

 Daily update April 11-13, 2020 (photo from 4-19-20 by Alan Papa. Beatles hat and John Lennon t-shirt, wore them for inspiration) 

NOTE: So it is the evening of April 20th. I am posting Easter weekend here. As a music lover, I recommend, if time permits, to ask Alexa or your Google Home etc. to play Beast or Burden by Keith Richards and Jimmy Burns. It is a bluey rendition, without Mick, I believe it will settle well with you. I read Keith’s book this summer, “Life”. This guy has the Blues through his soul, and has a huge heart and passion for many types of music.. Worth a listen if you have, TIME! An apropos song for the aftermath of a health issue.

One thing tonight, my Blood pressure measured 138/83. I usually checked in around 130/68. It seems to be settling down. Which is cool.

I am still dictating through my phone. Please excuse the capital letters in the middle of sentences. If the speech goes off and I restart it gets capitalized. I am working on blogging all of these responses and going forward soon
This update will encompass Saturday, Sunday (Easter) and Monday.
These three days resembled each other from exercise trying to get into a routine, medication as well as accepting a lengthy road to getting back to 100%.

It also got me into watching some movies and documentaries as a form of entertainment as well as rest. I’ve had a number of people that told me this was a sign to slow down. I find that a very interesting statement. We all move at different paces. As an accomplished individual who continues to challenge himself, I think the majority of the people who told me this, find the pace tiring. I have never felt like that, I’m a list person and as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to except that you can’t do it all in one day, but the list helps me get it done and accomplished most items on the list.

Writing these daily updates is both therapeutic and keeping my mind working in a positive sense since I know that I am writing for others. Let’s talk about the exercise. Linda my PT has given me about 14 exercises to do on my back or sitting in a chair. She also helps me with some balancing and standing routines. Initially they would like you to do two sets of 10 each. They are not terribly taxing and on Sunday, I time myself and I took approximately 25 minutes. I actually did about 18 minutes in a bed upstairs and then walked downstairs and finished in a dining room chair.

I do them faster than with my PT. But her workout is more thorough. And that is a lesson by a professional trainer is better or in this case the physical therapist. Over the weekend I was able to get the ball of my foot up off the ground. Each day it’s gotten a little better. I’m proud of that and Linda was happy to see the movement today. I told her I would like to wiggle my toes on my left feet by next week. Last week when I was interviewed by the in-house manager and she informed me that the furthest part of your body from your brain is the last to heal. That’s informative and also a bummer. You need your feet and you need, balance and movement. I understand the desire and work will bring the results sooner.

After today’s work out, Linda told me to stand below the step up into my kitchen and march my left foot up over the stop. We did 10. It was amazing how much easier walking with the walker was after that exercise. I have done 30 since she left. I’m committed to getting up and down stairs easier and safer.

On Sunday it was warm, and the family came over with the grandchildren in three shifts. We exchanged some food, kept a safe distance and did not hug. That’s brutal but with the lockdown and distancing understandable. I was able to walk down the driveway and passed the next-door neighbor’s house with the walker and back home. And then I sat in the sun on the driveway and visited with both my daughters. The highlight was the Easter egg hunt for the grandchildren. They retrieved all of the eggs in the back yard while I stood on the deck. It was priceless and also a memorable Easter.
In the evening I watched one of the Jumanji movies and got a pretty good night’s sleep. I’m also trying to read through a book that my friend Bill Feller gave me called, “The Secret Gift”.
It is a very good book written in the 2000s by Canton, Ohio man Whose grandfather did an incredible act during the depression in 1933. He gave gifts of five dollars to between 75 and 100 individuals/families. It is a moving book which reflects some of the kind acts going on during the coronavirus shut down.

We had some great food over the last three days. And probably eating better than I’ve eaten in a long time and eating less. I have been given some ginkgo and also prescribed from a friend to take vitamin B complex, raw. I have an email into my neurologist before I start taking supplements. We have a follow up visit with the neurologist and orthopedic doctor in May. I may not have mentioned in a previous update, but the MRI that they did from my toes to my head share that I have a slight fracture on the wing of vertebrae L5. It would be elective surgery to repair and both doctors agree that they do not recommend the surgery.

On Friday I received a call from my Occupational therapist Derek, and he informed me that on Thursday the day after he met me that he met with the patient that had tested positive to the virus. He is off my case Unfortunately. I am meeting with a new therapist tomorrow Tuesday by the name of Jesse. Today I had a text exchange with Derek, he tested negative for the virus which is great news. I bought a book for him call “The Craftsman”. It is about the hand; how valuable it is and how taken for granted it may be. He said he would stop by when he is on the road to visit and pick up the book.

I met a woman years ago whose son battled and beat cancer. She said she met the greatest people she never wanted to meet during this journey with her son. I can tell you my doctors, nurses, housekeepers, therapists and others have introduced me to a whole new side of friendly people. Dedicated and giving. Most people that I had met that went through cancer said they wouldn’t change a thing. Having a stroke is a setback. It is a spoon of reality. I’ve had a couple of pity parties and after the first one I said I would never do another one but, one showed up and I entertained it for a while. That was earlier today. I stood up after trying to take a nap and went downstairs in my basement, set up my computer and organized a couple of work projects as well as listen to some music and lined up my next couple of days. During the 3 1/2 to 4 hours in the basement I was able to take two walks around and I enjoyed an espresso. When I came upstairs, I did half my exercises and ate a wonderful dinner that Debbie prepared. I would call April 13 an accomplishment and a wonderful day. Deal with the “bad moments” quickly and move on.

When Linda the physical therapist came over and mentioned how bad the weather was, it really did not even bother me. I’m inside, I stopped at the door twice, opened it and took some deep breaths of the outside air. It’s a great day more to follow.
Enjoy the evening, John